National Coming Out Day is an annual day of celebration for those that identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer (LGBTQ) or as an ally. Coming out – whether it is as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer or allied – STILL MATTERS. When people know someone who is LGBTQ, they are far more likely to support equality under the law. Beyond that, our stories can be powerful to each other.
Growing up, for as long as I can remember, I never really fitted in to society’s forced mold of what a woman was. I was different. I thought differently. I dressed differently. I had a different perspective on what I believed to be true beauty. I knew that something was unique about me at a young age in comparison to my peers. When I would hang out with my girl friends, I was never interested in the things they were. You know, boys, makeup, dresses, the latest girl gossip, etc. They would always make fun of me for not being interested in the same things that they were fascinated with. They chalked it up to me being a tomboy and that one day I’d come around and soon be interested in the same things. And hell, I did too. I often thought that I was just a little delayed and that I’d get there soon. Yeah, one day I’ll catch up to them.
Fast forward to late middle school, early high school where I was still the same Quin. I always expressed myself in androgynous clothing. I never enjoyed tight-fitted clothes. I liked to be comfortable. And it just so happened that I always drifted to the boy’s section of clothing stores. Their stuff was loose and more my style, you know? I’ve always had this sort of tomboy swag with bits of girliness mixed in. Most of my family knew this and didn’t force me to do something different. Looking back now, I’m thankful because I know my other LGTBQ friends were probably not as fortunate with that. More on that in a minute.